Tonia Goertz
Summer is here, started off by Memorial Day, then Father’s Day, and Independence Day, concluding with Labor Day. This confluence of holidays is somewhat interesting because we begin the summer by remembering those who have served this nation and died because of that service. We next honor our fathers, many of whom are veterans. We celebrate Independence Day, the birth of this nation and think about the war that we fought for our freedom. Ending the summer season, we celebrate Labor Day, a day off from work that as a wife and mother I find rather appropriately labeled. Appropriate because that is the day that is used by many to mow the yard one more time, to get the last bit of shopping done so that the kids can go back to school, or spent, as in the case of my husband, watching some NASCAR race on television.
For the moment though, I want to focus on Memorial Day. For most of the estimated 25 Million living US Veterans this day, above all others, is filled with mixed feelings. Happy and sad, angry and joyous for it is the day that we “Remember.”
As I think about this holiday and of those on my personal list who are no longer with us, my mind drifts through those that have touched my life and served this nation. In doing this, I realize that for many on my list, this past year has ended their battle for benefits. I am not saying that they all received what they earned, only that it is over because they died. For the family members left behind though, the battle is ongoing.
The first people that come to mind are Freda and Lyle Babinski of McEwen, TN. Freda served in the Army for just shy of 2 years and received her discharge from duty when they diagnosed her with epilepsy. She always said, “I am just a little veteran, but a veteran none the less.”
I think of her now because she died October 31, 2005 at age 54 due to liver damage caused by Hepatitis C contracted from Lyle and complications after emergency surgery on a bleeding ulcer exacerbated by her diabetes. An ulcer undoubtedly made worse because of the stress she was under in the months leading to her death. Stress caused by the fight to keep their home, and because of the fight to get her husband his disability payments.
The fight to keep their home began in April 8, 2005 with a call from a new hardship manager because their lender, Origen Financial, even though fully aware that the Babinski’s were waiting on Lyle’s claim to make it’s way through the appeals process with the VA, had chosen not to renew the hardship payments on their loan. Adding to that stress, there had been some paperwork between the SSD office and the VA that was not properly filed and once the error was detected, Freda was given the wrong address to return the hardship paperwork. The Babinski’s were notified on April 15 that the VA would be collecting the overpayment of non service connected disability payments by taking $600 out of Lyle’s SSD check starting in May 2005 and continuing until such time as the $10,700 over payment is corrected.
In June, the Babinski’s learned when a concerned friend called to ask why they were loosing their house that Origen had gone so far as to publish in the local paper that the date set to auction the property was July 1. Origen had not contacted the Babinski’s regarding the pending sale until after Freda called to verify that the notice had been run.
Origen did eventually renegotiate the contract, but at the time of her death, Freda was still worrying herself sick over how to make the house payments as well as the insurance and tax payments while still being able to afford to eat which is critical because of health issues.
Lyle, 59, a combat veteran of both the Viet Nam and 1991 Gulf Wars is currently receiving, “About $800 per month from Social Security Disability because of the repayment reduction, and $498 is the house payment, insurance and taxes.”
His claim, started in June of 1997, is currently at the Veterans Board of Appeals in Washington, DC. He said, “All I can do is pray right now. If my claim is not approved soon, I expect to loose the house in July or early August. As it is, I am only eating once a day. I don’t have cable or internet, and I just don’t know what else to do.”
Babinski said, “I have a bunch of medical problems and can’t hardly use my right hand most days. I have tried to get help, but do not know where to go. I have been turned down everywhere I have gone. I wish Freda was here.”
I then think about Wade George, 40, of Grand Blanc, Michigan. George, a 1991 Gulf War combat veteran who served seven years in the Army died January 21, 2006 of lung cancer and three inoperable brain tumors. George received this diagnosis in stage 4, the most advanced stage of cancer. On July 8, 2005 he was given 90 days to live, but exceeding predictions, he lived 196 days from that date.
Upon receiving the diagnosis, George left the hospital, gathered family and friends, then married his two and a half year sweetheart Deanna the next morning. He returned to the hospital the afternoon he was married. Between them, the couple had five children, two that lived with them full time, and at the time of diagnosis, his daughter was visiting for the summer.
A benefit dinner was held last August to help the family defray expenses because at that time George was still paying for all of his medications even though he was unable to work due to illness and his wife was needed at home as caretaker for him and their children. George was luckier than many veterans have been; his claim received approval in September 2005, shortly before he died but well after a previous denial in 1999 based on other issues.
Deanna explained, “Wade had filed on other illnesses in 1999, and when he received this diagnosis they told us that it would take 90 days just to get the application. This was unbelievable because the doctors had just told us that Wade had maybe 90 days to live. Several people helped push the VA to approve his claim more quickly, but I don’t understand why it should take intervention like that to get a veteran what they have earned.”
Currently, Deanna said, “There are still unpaid medical bills, enough that I am looking for a loan and a new home. The condo is going to go back to the bank because I simply cannot afford it.”
In discussing what comes next for her and her family Deanna said, “Wade wanted to help all of the Gulf War vets and the vets to come, but his time was short and filled with pain which made it hard for him to do anything for his fellow service members. He once said that if he had to go to Washington to testify about his illnesses, he would. Now, that has become one of my goals. I made a promise to him that I would do what I could. It's time that veterans get the help they DESERVE without jumping through hoops!”
Deanna also explained that she is in the planning stages of trying to get a forum going that will bring together clergy, medical professionals, and ill veterans and family members with the purpose of “helping others cope with the changes and emotions of having a chronic or terminal illness. Many times before Wade died, he told me that it would have been better if he had died in combat versus finally getting his life in order and having a family only to lose it all. He told me that he just wanted to do what he used to do. I want other veterans and their families to know that they aren’t alone in these feelings, and I want to share my experience with all of this.”
Her message to other veterans, “BE STRONG! Look to the Heavens and the Lord when you feel alone. Know that you are NEVER alone! When God isn't enough, look to Wade, his strength, courage & our love. When that is not enough, look to me! I'm here to encourage you, to listen and help you in any way I can! Thank you for your sacrifice! You are the TRUE American Heroes! God bless you all and your families!”
I also think about Eugene C. Marbeiter of Dunedin, Florida who saw action in both Viet Nam and the 1991 Gulf War and died April 24, 2006 of a brain tumor that at the time of diagnosis was also in stage four.
Marbeiter, 54, was a retiree from the Navy who had served this nation for close to 21 years. As a civilian, he made use of the ministerial license that he held for more than 25 years and worked as a vocational rehab counselor for the Florida State Department of Education. He left behind a wife and three adult children, including one who has been handicapped since birth.
His wife Georgeine said, “We started his claim in 2004 and it was denied three times. The day he died, it was on the desk of the ratings officer at the Veterans Board of Appeals. Because he died, there was nothing done on the claim, we are currently waiting for the packet to come back so that they can approve my DIC and Pension.”
Georgeine explained that her husband is to be buried in Arlington Cemetery on June 22 and she hopes to visit his graveside in August with some friends. She said, “It has been a month that he has been waiting to be accepted there, and it is a little sad because the children and myself will not be able to make it for the interment. The kids offered to send me, but that is not something I can do alone.”
When asked about the claims process, the tone of voice used changes, takes on an edge much different from her usual genial tone. It tells a listener that a nerve was struck, and when pressed about it, Georgeine said, “The process robbed me of precious time with him. Each night I spent time searching for substantiation for his claim was time that I couldn’t spend with him.”
She went on to express several things that many veterans and family members have said, “They make the process so difficult that I believe that they want you to do one of three things never file, give up and quit, or die. It astounds me because I have heard from many veterans that it is standard for a claim to be denied three times before approval, and I can’t help but think that but for the grace of God the guys doing all of those denials aren’t in the same boat. They can’t be, and even if they were they wouldn’t have the same problems getting approval as the rest of us because they are on the approval boards.”
I think about these veterans and their families not because they are unique, but because there are thousands of stories just like them for each family detailed here. I “remember” them here because their stories have been passed around the world via the internet in the news, as postings to veterans groups, and memorial sites.
As I “remember” these few individuals, their family members, and all of the other veterans that I know, both living and dead, I feel torn between sadness and anger.
Sadness because these men went to war for this nation and came home to fight another battle for the benefits that military service is supposed to provide. Sadness because the cost of caring for veterans is not considered part of the cost of war, and until it is the men and women who wear the uniforms of the armed forces of the United States will watch and wait for the Veterans Administration to be funded each year as a discretionary program.
Sadness because funding the VA as a discretionary program versus funding it as part of the defense spending package or some other mandatory funding package is putting veterans and their families on the same level as subsidies for psuedorabies vaccination costs incurred by pork producers, or monies for welfare programs. While I am sure that both of these are necessary and needed programs for someone, the problem occurs when people think about funding budget items and think of discretionary programs as “entitlement programs.”
While indeed veterans are entitled to benefits when they become ill due to toxic exposures, or injured by battlefield hazards such as land mines or IED’s, veterans have EARNED these benefits. These benefits are due to them as this nation’s part of the deal made with those who would defend her from harm and the families that support that service. This is much different from the handouts given to special interest groups or set aside for the poor.
I am angry today because I believe that the richest, most powerful nation in the world can and should be able to provide for veterans and their families. I am angry because the system that is in place to provide compensation to veterans often seems intent on doing all it can to prevent them from getting that compensation; and angry because those with the power to make funding veterans benefits a mandatory budget item will not.
If, however, VA funding ever does become a mandatory line item, included in the defense spending budget or in some other way, the VA might have the ability to fulfill its mission which is, as stated on their website, "to care for him who shall have borne the battle and for his widow and his orphan." These words, spoken by Abraham Lincoln during his Second Inaugural Address, currently have a hollow ring in the ears of those who have to wait months or years to receive notification that their application for compensation has been approved, and even hollower to those who wait only to receive a letter of denial.
Since the stories above are indicative of so many others just like them, I believe that this nation must do better for veterans, their wives and widows, and their children all of whom sacrifice something for the greater good in the military. That sacrifice demands a thank-you from the nation served, and that thank-you should come in the form of compensation for the injuries and illnesses that have resulted from exposure to battlefield hazards of many kinds. That thank-you should not require a veteran to fight another battle to receive what they have already earned.
This nation sends young men and women into combat healthy and strong, but often, that is not how they come home. Memorial Day is a time to “remember” and one can hope that after the pretty speeches of the day are done, the cameras are turned off, and the crowds are gone that politicians do “remember” those who have given the ultimate sacrifice for their freedoms and liberties, and those serving this nation in combat today. Hope that they “remember” that caring for them and their families is part of the cost of war, and then do something to ensure that the men and women of the military, past and present, and their families receive just compensation for sacrifices already made.